Everything has a crack in it. Life as a whole is perfectly imperfect; art, books, bodies, relationships all perfectly imperfect. The sooner we get that lesson, the sooner we can get on with the opportunities that life presents us every day.
And so, the Procrastination-Perfectionism Loop. We encounter a life situation, our intention may be to follow through, and we face a choice: keep our word to ourselves or choose again. Many choose again and don’t follow through. The reasons vary yet the outcome is often the same.
We all have the ability to respond to the situations of our life. The catch is, not perfectly and so we procrastinate.
We may not like how we can respond or what our response will have to be, but we can respond to the calling of something that needs our response. It is our Response-Ability.
In her upcoming Webinar and companion Course, Dr. B goes even deeper into Breaking Free of Your Procrastination-Perfectionism Loop! To be notified of release, please...
Adults seeking ADHD support and treatment sometimes find that depression is a side effect of attention deficit disorder. Learn how one Ivy League graduate with ADHD took back control of her life.
If you’ve sought help from a mental health professional (MHP) and didn’t get what you needed this may shed some light. As of my July 2015 review of the California Board of Behavioral Sciences website, I do not see that there is an academic requirement to study adult ADHD in the licensure track for Licensed Marriage Family Therapist (LMFT), Licensed Clinical Social Worker (LCSW), Licensed Professional Clinical Counselor (LPCC) or Licensed Educational Psychologist (LEP). This specialty may be offered as an elective, depending on the university attended.
This lack of educational requirement leads me to believe that LMFTs, LCSWs, LPCCs and LEPs have very little or no working knowledge or specialized training in addressing the serious issues of adults living with ADHD. Furthermore, the general public is not aware of this lack.
In the U.S., about 60 percent or 6 out of 10 ADHD children grow up to be ADHD adults, according to the Anxiety and Depression Association of America.
The sense of relief many adults with ADHD express, knowing there is an explanation of how their life has been up to now is enormous. Looking back over a lifetime of confusion and seeing the pieces coming together to make a picture that explains the challenges is a gift.
As Director of the Center for Healing the Human Spirit, I have integrated a variety of methods into my practice for working with clients on issues of communication, sexuality and ADHD, to enhance the quality of their lives. I offer you the following…
The portrayal of so-called “appropriate sexual behavior”, according to certain magazine articles, movies or TV, is that the sexual urge is always there, it’s lusty, people are ripping off their clothes and ready to go at a moment’s notice, there are extended sexual and/or sensual sessions with great satisfaction for everyone and…… complete attention focused on one’s partner. If you are measuring your relationship by this kind of experience, you might be feeling that you or your partner are inadequate, because your sexual urge is very different. It begins in your mind and emotions first, rather than in your body.
According to the theories of sexuality at one of the hypnotherapy schools I...
Chapter 21, “Sexuality for Women with AD/HD” “Sexuality is often confused and conflicted for contemporary women. Rather than feeling comfortable with their own natural sexuality, they are influenced by strong and often contradictory messages from the media and from society about female sexuality. If a woman today is also challenged by AD/HD, her sexual experience might be further complicated by patterns of inattentiveness, hyperfocusing, impulsivity, and/or hyperactivity. This chapter will present the effects of broader societal issues on female sexuality, as well as the impact AD/HD has on female sexuality….”
For the complete content of this chapter, see "Understanding Women with AD/HD", Kathleen G. Nadeau, Ph.D and Patrician O. Quinn, M.D., Editors, Advantage Books, 2002.